How to get them used to strangers
Start off by having your friend ignore them
Have your friend quietly come into the room, sit down on the ground and completely ignore your kitty. They won’t look at them or try to touch them. They’ll just ignore them. Have a coffee, chat, do whatever you do with your friends. Pretend Scaredy isn’t there.
Get your friend to offer treats
Once they’ll let themselves be visible to a stranger, have the person offer Kitty extra special treats. It’s OK if they retreat to their hidey hole. They’ll still remember it was the stranger who brought good things to them.
Get your friend to play with them
Having your friend play with them with a fishing pole toy – so kitty can keep their distance from the stranger – is also a good idea.
Work up to touching
Once your kitty will take treats out of your friend’s hand, and play with them, get them to very gently stroke them, perhaps with a taming wand.
Try different people
The more ‘safe people’, your cat is exposed to, the less likely they are to be terrified when your potential wonderful adopter comes to meet them.